Sadly, how true is this?!? I think about this all of the time and say it to my clients a lot. I think, honestly, we hate qualities in others that remind us of the least favorite parts of ourselves. If someone is “skinny”, do we automatically hate them because of their body type and/or because we maybe can’t achieve said body type? Do we hate someone who is “geeky” because they have the capacity to do what they actually enjoy and we might not have the guts to actually follow our passions? There are so many layers to this discussion.
As someone who has dealt with adversity, I have had my fair share of negative comments hurled at me. People have said things to me that I know are indicative of qualities that they worry about they themselves developing. People tend to criticize what they can’t understand. It can be easier to project our own fears of qualities we don’t like about ourselves onto others…or “hate” people who have things that we don’t. Or maybe think we can’t have.
Regardless, think about this the next time someone is rude/mean/indignant, etc. towards you. Think about what they are criticizing. Think about this the next time you feel like being rude/mean/indignant, etc. towards someone. Think about what feeling is being elicited in you at that moment and then think, “What can I do today that will allow me to not feel that way about this person?”
Some food for thought…. 🙂 <3